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Self Love is a Pre-Requisite to True Love
To honour yourself is to honour Lord and Lady, by first being happy with who we are as a person, and then by being part of a relationship as two happy whole individuals who compliment one another, we honour and please them.
At first glance, this isn’t a PAGAN topic, but it is a lesson I have learned recently and feel that sharing it would only benefit others, when you look deeper into the text you will realise that this applies to religion, our relationship with the God and Goddess, ourselves and one another. We need to first be true to ourselves, as in doing this we honour the God and Goddess and make ourselves happy.
When two happy, whole people come together to make two even happier people, that love and happiness spreads and brings smiles to the faces of so many who see the interaction.
People love seeing people who are IN love. Sharing a love with another person is a gift from the
Lord and Lady and it starts from within each and every one of us.
A relationship cannot be healthy unless both participants are happy, whole & healthy individuals. If you live love you won’t betray yourself, and by honouring your values you will find healthy love. When you honour yourself you are honouring the Lord and Lady, it fills them with happiness to see you happy! Never forget this.
We are all able to connect to the Spirit, we are the God and Goddess incarnate, and we have the ability to create. A positive relationship does not come from two halves, for two halves do not equal one whole, but it comes from two people who are aware of how perfect they are, People who know how to be true to themselves coming together and sharing experiences.
Negative states of mind, such as jealousy and cruelty need to be eliminated. We are all capable of Unconditional Love, and should try to share it with our partner. True love is that which we receive from the God & Goddess, the spark that connects us all. By connecting to our higher selves and finding the God(ess) within with meditation, we can learn to live in the state of love. Our relationships are a mirror of how we relate to our Self. Remember to have a perfect relationship with yourSelf is necessary to having a healthy relationship with anyone else.
Once you feel whole and are really ready to start a relationship, you should remember that true love is when your desire exceeds your need for that person. You do not need a partner, the sun will rise without one, and you are perfect, complete, wonderful and whole on your own. However, when your desire is higher than your need, and you treat your partner with love, when you show them compassion and you honour the God within them then the relationship will energise both parties.
When the initial excitement fades slightly you learn the person, become aware of their qualities, you discover their faults and virtues. This leads to a deeper connection. Remember when you get to the stage of arguments, fights etc. that you need to be careful of assigning blame. This stage will make or break things, will either make you strong or separate the relationship; it is a necessary and important stage.
When you pass this stage you will enter compromise and forgiveness, you need to work hard to adjust to each other. Relate to one another out of love, compassion and kindness then you will have a partner you can be comfortable with, share your happiness, fears and sorrows.
Remember you need to find love within yourself, you need to be quiet and look within to see that YOU
ARE LOVE! The God and Goddess live within you so how could you be anything other than love? Now you can share your love with someone who knows that they too are love!
The state of True love is when the ego no longer interferes. When you are happy, fulfilled and in tune with yourself, your lover and the God and Goddess. The goal of a relationship should be balance. Without connection to Spirit, we will bounce from one relationship to the next, worrying that we will never find the "right person" we might end up trying to make someone perfect, or even settling for someone we know is wrong for us. Instead of waiting for prince charming, work on yourself, find yourself, and make yourself happy. Live in love, be love, give love and take love.
Hold your true love sacred, do not let the craziness of the world alter it, find your true love (that is love yourself) and live in that state.
Written By: Misty Morris
Date Posted: 4/10/2006
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